A really popular question I see people getting asked all the time is “what is your biggest regret?” something that at one time in my life I’d have found really annoying. I’m a hermit and when people say that you should say yes to everything I always find myself thinking “but what the hell do I have to say yes to?” I LITERALLY STAY INDOORS ALL THE TIME EATING.
I don’t want to say I’ve had a revelation, but recently, thanks to luck and coincidence an opportunity has come around and it’s genuinely something I’ve always wanted. And I couldn’t stop myself from saying yes.
I wanted to write this post to encourage you all to stop thinking that you’ll never find the perfect opportunity to say yes to, whether that’s the perfect opportunity to go abroad, meet someone you love, or find a new job. At some point something will happen that you can say yes to and then you can feel glad that you had to wait so long for the perfect opportunity.
There are certain regrets I have, things I’ve done in the past that now I feel were a waste of time and/or mistakes, so if someone asked me what regrets I had right now, I’d be able to tell them a few silly things that weren’t that big of a deal. But saying yes to this opportunity that I have been given recently, means that if I’m asked that question in the future, I know that this isn’t one of them. If I’d have said no to the opportunity, the chances are I would have regretted it instantly. Does this make sense? I suppose I’m trying to tell you that if you think your life is boring or that there hasn’t been any opportunities just wait a little bit longer because who knows what’s around the corner (except Doctor Who, obviously)
Here in the UK (and indeed quite a lot of Europe) we are experiencing more than an hours worth of unbroken sunlight. It’s been sunny for two days in a row now, TWO. And the best part is it’s been warm as well. Not like usual when the sun is lying and you go outside and freeze to death. It’s been a joy.
Well. When I say joy I mean a slight pain in the arse. We British people don’t cope well with weather changes, and as the weather is not rainy or mild we aren’t coping very well. But I thought I would offer my advice to you, for the best ways to cope with this sudden summer we appear to be having.
- Suncream. I don’t want to sound all preachy on you, but it’s really, really important.
- Wear the right clothing. I check the weather every night before going to bed, and then when I wake up (I really am the definition of old before my time) just to make sure I’m wearing the appropriate outfit to suit the weather conditions. But carry an umbrella with you just in case.
- Ice cream. It is a godsend, my current favourite is Kellys chocolate brownie salted caramel. Yes it is as good as it sounds, and no this is not an #ad (though I wish it was free ice cream is goals)
- Smoothies. These are a great way of staying hydrated and being healthy. Win win.
- Windows. Despite the peril of bugs and spiders getting in your room, keeping the window open really does help.
- Converse. Make sure you mention the weather at least once to every person you have a chat with otherwise you cannot call yourself British.
In this epic smackdown I am going to be pitting together two of life’s biggest steps.
University and work.
As someone who has been at uni for 2 years and has been on a placement/internship for over a month now, I thought I would pit them against each other and show you what is better. It might help you decide what path to take, or it might help you decide the placement/internship you want. Either way it promises to be an interesting fight.
- Free Time:
With uni, you don’t get free time. You get guilt time. You’ve either got an assignment to be doing/crying about or a job to do, whether that’s an actual job or hoovering there’s always something. And when you try and have free time it becomes procrastination.
With work there are NO ASSIGNMENTS (for my job anyway others might vary), you can go home at the end of the day and literally watch TV all evening without a care in the world. Of course you still have cooking and cleaning to do but there’s somehow more time to do it in.
With uni the majority of the people are, lets be honest, dick-ish in one way or another. Some don’t make any effort, others are bullies. Although you can make some really great friends at uni, there’s always clashing personalities.
With work, the majority of people I’ve met are actually nice. They’re all older than me so they tend to act more mature and I seem to get on better with older people anyway so that’s a bonus. Everyone likes the work they do so there’s never any complaining. It’s refreshing.
- What you do
I find at uni units are hit and miss, some you love, some you hate. Although I LOVE learning new theories and thinking critically, I am never as good at remembering the facts when it comes to assessment so it never looks as though I know anything.
With work if you’re doing a placement you love you’ll love doing the work. It won’t even feel like work. And the feedback you get is useful although can be hard to take. I do find that I end up with nothing to do and have to find more tasks, whereas at uni you have six billion things at once. It’s either too much or not enough.
My internship is unpaid however a paid one is obviously giving you more money than uni is. Uni makes you poor.
To conclude this battle. There are upsides to both uni and work. Uni is more challenging and diverse when it comes to making you think about things like theories, however work makes you use different parts of your brain. I personally feel less stressed and a bit happier when at work compared to uni, purely because the bad grades I’ve got at uni have smashed my confidence. Whereas at work everything I do is good and I feel confident doing everything. If I’d have known I wanted to work in radio before uni I might have taken a gap year and tried to get a radio placement without the aid of a degree, and then decided about going. However the fact I’m doing a degree does look good on my CV and being at uni has given me a lot of chances to see my friends and go to gigs.
So as the final bell rings we can see that the fight was pretty evenly matched. But the only reason there will be a clear winner is down to you, the individual. It’s an important decision, so think carefully about who wins in your fight (please don’t use violence)
As I am an old woman, I have recently caught up with this years series of Springwatch and, for some reason, I got emotional.
They were showing a montage of photos and clips from their Do Something Great campaign. This was basically a campaign they ran asking people to do something great for nature, whether that’s building a bird box or doing a beach clean. And it made me a little emotional. Seeing so many people getting together to help wildlife was so nice to see, it doesn’t happen enough.
I felt compelled to write a post about doing something great because I think it is so important to, whether it’s for nature, for a family member or a friend, doing something selfless really can make a difference to both them and you.
- For Nature: nature can seem a bit of a nerdy thing to help out, but it’s such a beautiful and important part of our lives it’d be a shame to watch it deteriorate
- Cleaning. Cleaning is never masses of fun. But doing it for nature is something different. Wildlife doesn’t cope well with litter, you see enough pictures of birds tangled in wire or seals with plastic bags on their heads. It’s incredibly sad. An easy way for people like us to help is to just pick up rubbish when you’re out and about. Whether you’re in the woods or at the beach, do it AND MAKE IT NEAT (Michael McIntyre reference there, you’re welcome)
- Housing. Animals need homes too, so if you have some time and space in your garden, build some nest boxes for birds or a leaf pile for insects or hedgehogs. You’ll be rewarded for it with cute animals.
- Food. Again it’s simple to do and rewarding too. You don’t need masses of space to do it, even if you live in a flat you can still find some birds to throw food at (a nice throw not a violent one, no knocking out sparrows or ducks)
- Family and friends: whether you live near them or don’t see them very often you can still do something great to make them smile.
- Last weekend my friend Lauren did a great thing for me, that made me so happy. She made me a birthday cake. I’ve never had a birthday cake made for me by a friend before and it was so touching. So if someone you know is having a birthday soon, or has just has one, channel your inner Mary Berry and make a cake for them. Who doesn’t like cake?!
- Send someone a message, it’s always a little sad when you feel like you’re drifting away from someone but are waiting for them to message you first. I’m always doing this. But just text them first, if their friendship is worth a lot to you just message them first. As Monty Don said at the talk he did at the Royal Norfolk Show “If there are two options one says yes and one says no, always go for yes, because that way you can always find out why you should have said no. And if you say no, you’ll always wonder what could have happened if you’d said yes.”
- Offer to help someone do something. Whether that’s your grandma’s gardening or helping your friend dye their hair, helping someone is always a nice thing to do.
In this day and age there’s so many horrible things going on in the world it’s important to remember to do something nice, it really can make a difference.