Who Am I?

Although I am a scientific person and recognise the lack of evidence for them, I absolutely adore doing personality tests, reading about my Zodiac sign, finding out the meanings behind my name, and, yes, reading my horoscopes, but I genuinely find them interesting, and, dare I say it, relatable?

I thought it would be fun to include some of the results I’ve found doing certain tests below, and for you to tell me your personality type. I am pretty obsessed with reading these things.

The RHETI test.
I discovered this literally 10 minutes ago, in fact it actually inspired this post, because I was so interested in all the different types of people there are.

The RHETI is based on the Enneagram, which is a pretty complex idea but basically it’s a circular graph with nine points inside it, connected to one another with triangles (think of the Charmed logo, but more lines.) These basically connect together in different ways, ultimately showing your personality type (I said it was complex.) The overall orientation of your personality is actually influenced by childhood factors, even including genetics. (I do recommend you read this if you want to know more, https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/how-the-enneagram-system-works/ ) So the nine points mean nine personality types, and though they’re named after their number they also have a word name too. They range from, Type 1, The Reformer, to Type 9, The Peacemaker.

So, what’s my number? Well I took the sample test (sod paying money for the official one, here is a link to it, https://trans4mind.com/rheti_html/test.html) and my three biggest numbers were, 2, 4 and 6. And, after reading the descriptions, I have concluded I am a Type 6, aka, The Loyalist. So, to sum me up, I am the “committed, security-orientated type.” Already I was pretty convinced. The website told me that:
“Sixes are reliable, hard-working, responsible, and trustworthy. Excellent “trouble-shooters,” they foresee problems and foster cooperation, but can also become defensive, evasive, and anxious—running on stress while complaining about it. They can be cautious and indecisive, but also reactive, defiant and rebellious. They typically have problems with self-doubt and suspicion. At their Best: internally stable and self-reliant, courageously championing themselves and others.” AND I WAS SO SHOCKED AT THE ACCURACY, I feel like this is me down to a T. It weirdly is similar to the traits of the Cancer zodiac type, so now my whole world makes sense. If you want to find out more about my type, click here.

The 16 personalities/ NERIS Type.
Although a vague name, this is basically your ESTPs to your INFJs. All those letters I’m sure we’ve all heard about before, if not, these basically refer to whether you’re extroverted or introverted, and then cognitive functions referring to your thoughts and feelings, (read more here, https://www.16personalities.com/articles/our-theory)

I’d done this test before (yep, more than once) but thought I would take it again today to give you an accurate result, also because I am curious to see if I’ve changed. If you want to do this test, click here. And my results were actually the same, I am an INFJ-T aka the Advocate. So, I am 92% Introverted, 71% iNtuitive, 74% Feeling, 84% Judging and 93% Turbulent. So, what does this mean? Well according to the website I am “quiet and mystical, yet very inspiring and tireless idealists” (I BLOODY LOVE THIS.) It goes on to say:
“The Advocate personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As members of the Diplomat Role group, Advocates have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is that they are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.”
There are literally pages and pages of information on these types, which is great as it means you can learn so much, but to conclude my type, and so not to waste too much of your life, it said:
“Few personality types are as sensitive and mysterious as Advocates. Your imagination and empathy make you someone who not only cherishes their integrity and deeply held principles but, unlike many other idealistic types, is also capable of turning those ideals into plans, and executing them.”

There are dozens of these tests out there, which excites me a lot. So if you don’t hear from me again it’s probably because I can’t stop doing them.

Have Your Say

With another election looming for us Brits, it’s important to know how to choose who to vote for. This election is set to be a dramatic change to our lives and we deserve a say in what should happen. So here are a few tips on knowing who to vote for:

  1. Register.
    The most important thing to do pre-election. If you’re eligible, please do register
    https://www.gov.uk/register-to-vote
  2. You matter.
    It’s easy to think “oh I won’t vote, loads of people will” or “what difference will I make”12 million people thought the same in the last election. That’s insane and huge. Remember it’s your right to have your say.
  3. Study.
    This isn’t a fun word, but it’s an important one. Make sure you look at each party and politician carefully, listen to arguments, read their Twitter profiles, watch the debates. Make sure you have the confidence that you understand what they’re offering. It’s so easy to see one photo or one slogan or one bus *cough* and think that’s the be all and end all.  Politics is a messy and scary industry, and it’s easy to be misinformed.
  4. You
    This is your vote, not your mum’s or dad’s or friend’s. If someone’s a hardcore Tory, a lifelong Labour or a UKIP “for the lols” voter, don’t think that you have to follow in their footsteps. It’s up to you to decide what you agree with, what issues are close to your heart, and what you want the future of the country to look like, No one elses.

What Have We Learnt?

I’ve done a lot of thinking recently. This year is my final year in education, which got me thinking… I started secondary school in 2007. TEN YEARS AGO. Which then made me think about secondary school, which then made me think, what did I actually learn? (I told you I’d done a lot of thinking)

So let’s chat about the education system and what those five years in school actually taught me.

  1. People can be brutal.
    I think it’s very hard to settle into a friendship group in school, the popular group seems so out of reach and idealistic yet not at all like a good place to be, then there’s one group that seem like the best of friends but they’re the uncool and bullied group and, well, out of fear you stay away. So what does this make? A hierarchical system, which seems to imply some sort of potential to “progress to the top” (this is a whole different kettle of fish,) you may have guessed I never made that progression, I was pretty close to the bottom of the hierarchy, but that didn’t bother me. Even though, as it later transpires, I never fitted in with the group I was in. But they were all I had (Friendships on Rough Seas.) The other non-group students can be quick to judge you, if you’re intelligent you’d better be popular or you’ll be called a nerd, if you’re not as bright you’d better make people laugh or you’ll be called thick. You can’t win.
  2. Horrible Histories is the only place you’ll learn about history.
    I don’t know about you (but I’m feeling 22) but my history lessons at school were awful. I remember sod all. Actually I lie, I do remember two things. One, the teacher dressed up as an executioner and hid in the stationary cupboard. Two, this was the class I met my best friend in. Other than that I have no recollection, truth be told I don’t think I could even tell you when World War 2 was, and I hate myself for this ignorance. I watched, and indeed still do on occassion Horrible Histories and this show taught me so much (although as I have a shocking memory some of it is probably very confused.) To this day I still remember the lyrics to the theme tune. Long story short, history teachers should just wheel in that old massive telly and put Horrible Histories on in class.
  3. Maths anxiety is a thing
    I used to cry over maths. One of my strongest memories of the first year of school was when I cried about the maths homework outside the classroom, my teacher was so concered he rang my parents. What didn’t help was my fellow classmates who laughed at me. For some reason though teachers always seemed to love me and this guy slammed them down, and for that I am grateful. But maths anxiety is a thing and annoyingly, I don’t think many teachers understand this. I used to lack so much confidence with my maths, I’d need things explained to me several times, and I would need time to get used to the work. Once I was setteled I actually enjoyed maths, the problem solving was quite fun and, I was pretty fast at getting the work done. I think if I’d recognised this anxiety earlier and had it nurtured I’d probably have done something science based at uni as I really love science (but this is a weird existential thought that I want to forget immediately. ) It was actually commented on at a parents evening once, I think the teacher said something along the lines of “it’s unusual to have a student in the highest set for science, yet be in the third set for maths.” So you can imagine how that made me feel.
  4. There are three types of rock
    This is one of the facts I do remember from school. Igneous, metamorphic, sedimentary. Boom. Not that I have an issue with learning this, I loved geography. I just wish we were actually taught important life skills. Such as, where countries actually are on the map, the capital cities of these countries etc etc. This isn’t just limited to geography. In French I wrote an article about the global fashion industry, yet in France I can’t order a jug of water for the table, book a taxi or know what to say at a till. I don’t know what a mortgage is, how to buy a house, what a credit score is. Need I go on?
  5. Trends
    When I say trends I mean to do with the fashion that is school unoforms. Head bands were cool, thin eyebrows were on, and if your shirt was tucked in and your tie was long you were bullied. Looking back that look was scruffy at best, and when my brother started school, specifically his last two years he found it hilarious and weird how that was cool. Because when he was at school it was cool to tuck your shirt in and have a normal tie. I just find it so strange how these things came to exist, who decides what is considered fashion? And why was everyone obsessed with being cool?

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Comedy and Mental Health

Last night I saw Russell Howard’s Round the World tour live, and it was utterly incredible. It was a blend of observational comedy, satire, and deep thought-provoking discussions about current affairs, womens rights, self-harming and mental health. And it got me thinking, just how important I think it is that people take more time to go to comedy gigs (and indeed music, but this is focussing on comedy) as a way of coping with mental health issues.

As the world around us seems to crumble into a mess of damaging ideologies and just plain weird politics, it’s so important for people to try and look for the good in life, as Russell said yesterday you never know when the next laugh out loud moment will come, you need to look out for it. There’s something about sitting in a room full of people, people you may never have met, that connects you for two hours of laughter. Being in that one room, you’re focussed on the comedian on stage, you barely have time to think “oh did I remember to lock the back door” or “are the people behind me judging me?” or “what if I fail that exam I have next week” or “I’m so worried about the high rates of race crime.”

Of course, depending on the style of comedy you’re watching, these topics of conversation may come up, I know yesterday Russell talked about a lot of hard hitting stuff, but perfectly blended with perfect Donald Trump impressions, singing and hula hooping, you weren’t left feeling stressed. You could think about these important issues critically, then laugh, then move onto the next thing. And I think this is what’s so important. Being able to move on, it’s so easy to have something just loop around your brain, but at these gigs they don’t. Or if it’s not very political comedy, you just have a chance to laugh about the everyday things that links human beings together, whether that’s driving or football.

Being at the gig you feel at ease, or at least I do. I know I feel so much less anxious about what other people are thinking about me when I’m sat down in a gig, than when I’m just simply walking by a road.  I sometimes wonder if the comedian on stage realises the positive impact they have on people’s mental health.

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5 facts about me

I thought this week I would share with you some useless yet hopefully interesting facts about me, if you want to share some things about you with me, then feel free to!

  1. I’m a bad sleeper:
    I move around a lot in my sleep, and on more than one occasion I have woken myself up by turning and violently headbutting the wall.
  2. Spelling:
    I’m generally a good speller, for some reason however, there are certain basic words that I can never spell right the first time, such as peice or piece, legnth or length, occasion or occassion (the keen eyed amongst you will notice how I have used that word above, and you will have presumed correctly that I did Google the spelling)
  3. Swimming:
    At this moment in time I cannot swim, and in fact am terrified of swimming, I get so worried when I see people going underwater. However, I actually used to be able to swim. As a young child I had swimming lessons with my primary school, however somehow forgot how to do it. Even now I have too little confidence to learn.
  4. Book worm:
    I am obsessed with books and writing, and very often imagine what my future bookshelf will look like. For example, I am going to have a shelf specifically for alphabetised and chronological comedy DVDS, and one for my favourite childhood books.
  5. Flat feet:
    I have pretty flat feet, so when I wear shoes, no matter how small the heel is, the height of the heel is added onto my height, meaning I look taller than I am. When my friends and I measured our heights recently (what an evening I hear you cry) they were all surprised at my “real height” when I took off my shoes.

Mother’s Day Gift Guide

This isn’t my usual style of blog post, but I have to admit, Mother’s Day is one of my favourite “holidays.” I feel like mums are just really easy to buy for. However if you don’t find it that easy then hopefully this will give you some ideas for this Sunday (unless you don’t live in the UK, in which case this may be pointless)

  • Flowers: This sounds very cliche, but mums do love flowers. Whether it’s a bunch of roses or a potted plant, you can’t really go too far wrong (unless your mum has hayfever problems, maybe avoid the flowers…)
  • Hands and feet: before you raise your eyebrows, I mean creams. Mum’s, for some reason, love to have soft hands and feet. I recommend L’Occitane and Lush as they have a good range of scents and prices,  as well as the perks of a “designer brand name.”
  • Shower gels: On the subject of bodies (this sounds weird), in general, shower products and moisturisers are a go-to present for women. As annoying as some people find it, I adore getting these products, I own enough products to start my own Boots.
  • Baking: I love baking, and for most occasions I’ll bake something. I did the dessert for Christmas day, I made my dads birthday cake (which, amazingly, he loved so much it was requested to be the Christmas day pudding,) and I make my mum something on Mother’s Day. This year is no exception. I’m planning on making salted caramel florentines for her. But whatever your mum enjoys, you should make for her.
  • Cream tea: on the topic of food, if you have a bit more money to spend, why not treat your mum to an afternoon tea somewhere, maybe in a rural village you’ve never been to before, as if it’s a road-trip. Who doesn’t like cream tea?!
  • Shopping: of course, if you have the money, and your mum needs a new handbag/has a favourite wine she hasn’t had for ages/likes posh necklaces, you could always treat her to a shopping spree.

Body Size

I went skinny jeans shopping today. Which was an error. It took me over 2 hours to find a pair of jeans that fit in the waist (which by the way, is more like the stomach otherwise I’d look like I’d shat myself), the leg (too baggy or unable to be removed) and the length (I’m short so anything over 30inches and they end up like shoes.) In the end I resorted to the childrens section where there were jeans for 16 year olds that fit me… make of that what you will.

But my hatred towards shopping for jeans isn’t what this post is about is body size and confidence. I’m sure we all have our own things that when it comes to what we do and we don’t like. But there was a common theme in the womens changing rooms. In the two hours (TWO) I was in there I heard numerous comments relating to womens sizes. Particulary to do with “fat.” One comment that stuck with me was:

“I need something to hide my wobbley bits”

Two words there we need to focus on. Need and hide. Why do we live in a society where people feel ashamed about themselves, to the extent where they feel so judged by other people they need to hide certain parts of themselves in order to fit in. The word need is so strong, it’s like she has no alternatives, no say at all in the matter. She has to cover up or face consequences. It should be up to her what clothes she wants to wear, not needs to wear. Or maybe the pressure is coming from herself, and the feeling of embarrassment.  It makes me so sad that so many of us feel self-conscious. Including myself. I think there needs to be a change in how bodies are perceived. I don’t know how because I haven’t got to that stage of feeling confident, but there must be a way for every body to have love and respect for their own bodies, as well as other peoples. You only get one body, one brain and one life so you might as well love it as much as you can.

Top 5 Songs of the Moment

Hi-de-hi people! Today I’m doing another song recommendations post, as I’ve recently changed up my shower playlist and felt as though it was only fair to share these songs with you. Now they can be your shower playlist too:

This is probably a lot of peoples recent additions to their playlist because, well, it’s a new release. Lorde is back people. She is back. And her new song Green Light is a banger. This song kind of reminds me of a cross betwen Sia and Lana Del Ray- obviously this is no bad thing.

Next up is a Bowie song, which will come as no surprise to any of you, but I’ve recently rediscovered Rebel Rebel and it’s safe to say I am pretty obsessed. The version below is a live version, but it’s just as good, if not better than the recorded version. You can hear the energy from the audience, it’s so incredibly powerful. I really wish I could have seen Bowie live, it looks so good. I miss him.

The next song is a little different, but still amazing. You can blame Greg James for getting me into Louis Berry. She Wants Me has such a retro rock and roll feel to it. It is so different to all the other music out there today. If you don’t start dancing to this song, I don’t understand you.

You’ll probably recognise this song from that phone advert from the brand that rhymes with Woogle. It look me so long to find it, but I am so glad I finally have. I absolutely adore it. Pianos and brass and wonderful vocals. Perfect. There is also a UK version which has a different video but is basically the same, so if you want to check it out I highly recommend it.

And finally, thanks to Lets Sing and Dance for Comic Relief, I haven’t had this song out of my head. I loved it growing up, but hadn’t heard it for so long. So thanks to Comic Relief, my love was re-ignited. How can people not like Diana Ross, Chained Reaction? It’s so upbeat, it has those knock on wood vibes (the song, not the action- obviously…)

Print VS online media

Recently a well-known vlogger was attacked by a newspaper for apparently causing declining literacy amongst teenagers. Before even reading it you can tell what sort of article this would be. I bravely clicked the link and couldn’t help but snort laughing at the writing. I daren’t even call it journalism. The article was full of inaccuracies, mis-quotes and clickbait.

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I just thought I would do a little post sharing my thoughts on why both the online and print media should just bloody get along.

Both print and online media have a place in society today. Growing up I fondly remember walking to the paper shop with my dad and brother on a Sunday morning to get my dads weekly paper. This was before the age of computers and smartphones. But I also fondly remember being 15 and discovering the YouTube world, feeling like I’d found a secret place that could entertain me if nothing was on TV or if I was feeling down. Now times have changed, the paper shop has become housing, and YouTube is no longer a secret. It’s become a phenomenon creeping more and more into other “real” parts of the world, other media outlets.

As weird as this feels (I do miss the days when a million subscribers was a rare shock), it’s how times are changing, it doesn’t mean at any given opportunity respectable papers should write hate-filled articles based on lies. But at the same time, print media should be recognised as an important platform, yes, the statistics show newspapers and magazines are being consumed more online than bought in shops (trust ne, I’ve had a lot of uni lectures on this, I could cite many sources, but I won’t bore you) but print media shouldn’t feel threatened. Where else do people get their current affairs from? I personally find The Guardian and the BBC good places to go. I don’t turn to YouTube to find out who’s said what to who in the House of Lords. It doesn’t make YouTube less important to people, it’s a form of entertainment, and should be respected. I think if you are going to write an article on a YouTuber you should at least have some knowledge of how important that platform is for millions of people. It may appear trivial at first glance, but when you realise how the personalities make their audience feel, the trivial nature fades away.

I feel as though I’ve rambled on incoherently, but my basic opinion on this is as follows:
both the online world and the print world are merging and if the print media can’t learn to accept this, then it really isn’t doing itself any favours at all. Live and let live.

 

Motivation and Uni

Staying motivated at uni (or indeed at any point in education) is no easy task, there’s all the deadlines and the constant pressure to do better than everyone else, the fear of failure, and the thoughts about the future. However staying motivated is important, when you start losing the will to carry on it’s when things start to go wrong, trust me, I’ve been there.  I thought I would share a few tips and tricks to staying on task and motivated:

  1. Time flies
    I know you might not want to hear this when it comes to deadlines, but when you can’t really be arsed with your degree you need to remember uni flies by. It feels like my three whole years have gone by in just one. When you think about how far you’ve come and how quickly that went you’ll realise it’ll be over before you know it.
  2. ASAP
    I always start work as soon as possible, I really believe the sooner you start the sooner you can finish.
  3. Notes
    However it’s never easy starting an essay, especially when you hate the topic. If you just start with some note taking, about anything you think might be relevant, you’ll be surprised how much of it you can naturally form into longer sentences and paragrpahs, before you know it you’ll have an essay.
  4. Pre-deadlines
    Set your deadline a day or two before the actual deadline, then you can guarantee you’ll finish in time which means less stress for you at the end.
  5. Plan ahead
    Schedule in when you want to tackle your assignments, there’s always a way to stop yourself from writing two essays at once. So, for example, I have a deadline on the 2nd of April, and I’ve schduled March to be the time of writing. My May deadline is to be written over the Easter holidays. Etc.
  6. You are doing FINE
    I think the person who is judging you the most is you, degrees aren’t meant to be easy (or fun I’d argue) but the fact you managed to get onto the degree shows you have potential. Even if you think your grades say otherwise, and that they’ll never get better, they can and they will.
  7. Treat yoruself
    I spoke to my grandma on the phone today and she said something that resonated with me, “if you don’t treat yourself no-one else will” and I think this is so important. You should reward yourself after all your achievements. Made a good start on an essay? Treat. Handed in an assignment a day early? Treat. Got a first in a presentation? Treat. Even if you think there’s no free time for it. You can make time.